The loftier your ambitions—the stronger your foundation needs to be.

In this phase, we will...

• Build a strong working partnership, because change can only move at the pace of trust.

• Gain an overview of your:

  • unique background: the environments you and your ancestor's systems adapted to

  • personality structure: the shape of your adaptations

  • current reality: the outcomes produced by those shapes

  • desired reality: the new shapes you wish to embody

• Prepare your internal and external environment to support the changes you want to make.

• Fill any skill gaps in the way of moving forward.

***Traditional talk therapy and mindset coaching generally stop here.

Once your foundation is set, the deep (depth) work begins. In this phase we:

• Dive below the surface to work with your unconscious mind.

• Re-wire your brain and nervous system using the information your unconscious is giving us, so expressing your potential comes more easily to you.

• Create space for any suppressed unconscious material to rise to the surface and be processed through the nervous system (often referred to as a "somatic release").

• Teach you the process along the way so you can align your system to your goals any time you desire.

Working at this level tends to produce profound healing experiences that defy easy categorization. People commonly describe feeling a surge of warmth, lightness, and exhilaration as their systems are unburdened from years, even decades, of shame and restrictive, fear-based conditioning. Past clients have variously described these sessions as "ecstatic bliss", "psychedelic", and "some wild fucking shit". They are all correct ☻

Now that each layer of your system is aligned with your goals, it's time to take bold action to create the reality you desire. After all... a breakthrough is only as valuable as what you do with it.

This phase is about:

• Building new habits, relationships, and environments—or restructuring old ones—that crystallize your new reality.

• Creating space for your nervous system to adjust to this new, unfamiliar level of expansion (because altitude sickness isn’t limited to literal mountains).

• Taking a breather to enjoy the progress you've made.

From here, if you're wildly pleased with your transformation, we complete our work together. Or—if you'd like to keep creating—we loop back through each phase for as many rounds as it takes to actualize your desired results.

Some clients end up enjoying the process so much they choose to continue working together long after their initial goals have been reached. Many have been with me for two years or more!

Truthfully, it depends. Every person's path is as unique as the background, skill level, and capacities they come in with. I promise the most amount of change in the least time possible. That said, no amount of skill I bring to the table can catalyze change faster than your nervous system can adapt. We move at the pace of trust.

This work also takes a high-degree of commitment to action. Coaching is designed to support you to dissolve the internal and external frictions that make taking action difficult. However, I cannot do the work required to change on your behalf—that part is up to you. For that reason, the timing of your progress largely depends on your own efforts to implement the shifts we create in session.

Generally speaking, you can expect:

1-4 sessions to work through a situation.

6-24 months for deep transformation.

I am trauma-informed, trauma-trained, and very experienced in the realities of complex trauma survivorship from living them myself.

This means I am a skilled, sensitive, and attuned co-creative growth ally to those with histories of pain.

This does not mean I am qualified to diagnose or treat trauma or its symptoms.

Yes—I am a student first and a coach second because I can only help you transform your depths to the extent that I have faced my own. Along with being actively engaged in personal coaching and therapy, I invest in regular clinical supervision and professional training. I am also currently fulfilling the degree requirements to become a licensed psychotherapist.

Modalities I’m trained in include:

✴ Internal Family Systems (IFS)  ✴ Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB)  ✴ Depth Psychology ✴ Somatic Integration  ✴ Trauma-Informed Touch Therapy

You can read more about my story, experience, and training on my "About" page here.

Yes—I offer a limited number of sliding scale scholarships per year. You can read more about who qualifies and how to apply here.

LGBTQIA2S+

Yes. I have worked with clients across the spectrum of gender and sexual expression, including many whose expression defies easy categorization. As a cis-heteroflexible woman, I don't pretend to be an expert in the lived experience of queer persons, however, I am 100% committed to providing a curiosity-forward, non-judgmental, and protective space for all my clients—regardless of how they define and express themselves.

NEURODIVERGENT

Sometimes. I have experience coaching clients with adhd and complex trauma, but I'm not the most qualified choice for those with autism.

CHRONIC ILLNESS

Yes. My trauma-informed experience means I meet many clients living with some kind of chronic condition. That said, if your symptoms are unstable or significantly interfere with your ability to function, a trauma-trained somatic psychotherapist would likely be better suited to your needs.

ETHICALLY NON-MONOGAMOUS

Yes. The beauty of learning the fundamental principles of relational intelligence is they apply to ALL relational structures.

PARENTS

Yes. I work with parents. However, if you desire coaching specifically to address challenges in parenting, I am not the best choice.

BDSM/KINK/SEX WORKERS

Yes. I have supported clients with a wide array of sexual expression. However, I am not trained as a sex, pleasure, or intimacy coach. So if that's specifically what you're looking for, I'm not the best choice.

DIVERSE POLITICAL VIEWS

Yes. I'm here to help you clarify how you think, not to tell you what to think. It's more important to me that we share similar values (things like curiosity, openness, and connection...) than that we share the same beliefs. A huge part of this work is learning to relate across tension and difference, and coaching is an ideal context to strengthen that muscle.

OTHER

If there's I've missed, but you're still curious about working together, send me an email at connect@antoniadolhaine.com and we can talk :)

I am ethically bound to keep everything you share in session confidential. I have also worked with public figures who required additional paperwork to be signed (eg. NDA's) in addition to my own.

The only exceptions to confidentiality are:

• If you disclose a crime committed by yourself or someone else

• I believe you or someone else is in danger or at risk of serious harm

• You are being evaluated to determine your sanity in a legal proceeding

• You have filed a lawsuit against anyone and are claiming mental or emotional damages as a part of the suit.

• You have waived your rights to privilege or give consent in writing to limited disclosure by me

Generally, no. This is for three main reasons...

First, I offer complimentary, commitment-free discovery sessions and low-commitment, entry-level packages specifically so you have plenty of space to determine if we're a good fit before committing to long term work together.

Second, coaching doesn't override your autonomy or freedom of choice. You're in charge of how deeply you participate, whether or not you do the homework, and how much you use my help. Your results depend mostly on you.

Third, the work of growth, by its very nature, brings us right up to our edges so they can be stretched. Fear can make it tempting to quit. And people do quit on themselves—all the time! Stakes are how we keep skin in the game. The whole point of investing in a coach is to have support and guidance to keep moving in the direction of your full potential, even when the road feels scary and obscure. In other words, our work is the most valuable at the exact moment you most feel like quitting.

I only make two exceptions to my no-refund policy:

• You are in crisis or are displaying symptoms that require referral to a licensed psychologist, healthcare, or legal professional. In this case I can refund unused portions of paid-in-full contracts with minimum two weeks notice.

• I consciously or unconsciously violate the terms of our contractual agreements and/or the ethical bounds of the coaching profession (note: this has never happened)

I do not. As far as I know, there are no insurance companies—public or private—that currently cover coaching as part of their policies.